LEARN , GROW , AND SUCCEED

Self improvement is a journey that anyone who wants to excel in life must take. It does not matter in what area you want to excel and progress, whether it be in your business, in your work, in your studies, in your marriage or in your spirituality.
All aspects of our lives can only truly improve if we take responsibility for their improvement. The greatest area of such improvement that will impact all other areas of our lives, is improving ourselves.
This can be at several levels:
Improving your KNOWLEDGE
Improving your SKILLS
But is it clear from this that even improving your skills first requires improving your knowledge. Therefore we can conclude that all self improvement begins with self growth in the area of our knowledge.

The mind is the thing that we must stretch in order to broaden our reality and capabilities. Without a stretched and open mind that is receptive to new ideas and information, self growth is impossibility. But with such openness and receptivity to new ideas comes great responsibility. This is because not every idea or theory is correct. Some things are wrong and some things are dangerous and can be destructive.
Therefore, we must use our judgement and discernment in deciding what ideas to accept and what ideas to reject. Accepting correct ideas and information will lead to success. Accepting wrong ideas and information can lead to failure and frustration.
Here also the circle is completed, because having such judgment and discernment requires that we first have the right knowledge by which to make such judgement and choices. So again, knowledge comes out on top.
You need to have the right knowledge in order to navigate the unpredictable terrain of life.
This section of the site and others are there to give you that right knowledge that will equip you for success in life and give you the tools you need to excel.


Additionally, why not share your won wisdom and knowledge that could be of help to others as well. It is often said that experience is the best teacher, but it does not have to be YOUR OWN experience. We can all learn from other people’s experiences, mistakes and success. That is why it is important to share what you know, because you can also learn from what others know.

Self development.

Health and lifestyle

Environment

(self development) :

             The story I want to share with you guys is the time I got massive big scar right across my chest. This happened on a one fine evening years earlier. At that time, I was 4 years old. I was way younger than I am now, stupid and consequences never came close to my mind. I once saw my uncle smoked in front of me. He used a lighter to light his cigarette. And by that view, I felt like trying. That’s kind of silly for a 4 years old, right? Without thinking, I simply grab the lighter he used earlier and light it up. Without prepense, the fire from the lighter started to incinerate my shirt.

               In a split second, my body was covered with blazing fire. And I was afraid. Of course. I mean really afraid. Blood was oozing from my burnt skin. That was freaking hurt. Beyond all other hurt that you guys ever felt before. I felt like almost die. I was in so much pain, I cried really loud and my father, brumously ran to get me. He was wickedly surprised seeing me like that. I’m his son, obviously he’ll act like that. He quickly ripped the fiery shirt i was wearing. Next, he rushed me to a clinic nearby our house to get me treated. Unfortunately, that clinic didn’t take serious injuries that need surgeries. My father swiftly drove me to the hospital and I was placed in icu.

            The doctor told my father that I needed surgery. Without wasting any precious time, he agreed. They quickly did the surgery on me and I was put in ward for a month. I still can remember my father said to me before the surgery. He said, “son, this is temporary. God loves you. That’s why He put you in this situation. You’ll be fine. I promise. I’ll wait for you.” His words really calm me. And that too, help me go through the surgery.

              After that horrible surgery, I was put in observation for another two weeks. That means I can’t get back home already. I’ve to stay in that same ward again. My parents and siblings kept visiting me. Especially my father. He slept outside the ward to look after me. He didn’t leave me at all. Plenty of time. My aunts and uncles also came to see me. They brought me foods and toys. I was a kid back then, I’ll be happy to see them bringing me toys of course. It helps me to forget about the pain I was suffering from. 

             It took me 14 years to get over that hell of a tragedy, seriously. Since then, I never spoke about this to almost everyone. Everytime I recall about that tragedy, I’ll be very terrified. That tragedy tought me that fire isn’t something you can play with. It is very dangerous and hazardous and also cautious. To you guys out there, my advice is be careful when you’re playing with fire. Cause fire doesn’t recognize its’ prey. Sure you can call me a liar if you don’t believe me. But don’t come back to me, on your knees, regretting you disobey me. Trust me, I’ve been there folks.

             

                                                                                                                        SYAWAL DANIAL                       

Alone : The story of rebirth

              

                 Ever since I was a child, no one really appreciate me.

 ”Get lost !”,”I don’t need your help ,LOSER !”. Those words kept lingering in my head. They always thought that I am a burden and can’t do things right. It makes my heart hurts so much that sometimes makes me want to punch them. But someone once said to me “No matter what others might say about you, I will always trust in you,” Yes. She is my one and only mother. She was the only person that could understand through my pain and sorrow. She was the only person that I have in my life. My father died since I am six, so my mother took care since then. My father didn’t leave us any wealth since we were not really that rich. Our life were very moderate but we were happy.

My school life was very challenging. You can say it was a bit complicated. I don’t have any friends, neither a lover. I am not that good looking nor intelligent, but my mother always said that I am very good at sketching. But no one really noticed it. Some of my schoolmates always bullies me and some might also mock my drawing. But it never offended me.

One day,

“Hey kid! I want you buy me some drinks. Use your own money” said Sean a senior at my school.

“But I don’’t have any money,” I answered. The senior pissed off. The pulled me into a toilet and punched me on the stomach and kept punching. At that time, I felt like fainting. My eyes becoming blurred. Then, someone came.

“What are you kids doing ?!”said Encik Rahman the discipline teacher.

“Sean, go to you class now !”he ordered Sean. I felt relief and I fainted. Two boys came and carry me to the hospital by Encik Rahman’s car.

At the hospital I heard Encik Rahman was talking to someone through the phone.

“ He need to move to another school. It’s not safe here for him since he only have you as his mother” it was my mother! He said I have to move school?

“Why do I have to move school? I like it here” I said.

“It’s not safe for you to stay here” he replied “We cannot expel Sean because his father sponsored the school in many of our events,” he continued. Yes, Sean’s father did sponsored a lot for the school as he owned many company. I just kept quiet. I was told to stay at the hospital for three days.

“RIIIIIINGGGGG !!!”

The school bell rang. It was recess time. I sat by myself on a bench.

“Hey can is this seat taken?” a beautiful and polite girl asked me.

“No, please have a seat” I invited her”

“My name is Sakura” she introduced herself followed by me. She was in the same age as I was and one of the top ten students in our batch. It was the first time that a girl would talk to me. I felt very happy. We talked and talked until the school bell rang.

“Oh, it’s time for class. We have to move now. If you don’t mind, can we be best friends?” she said to me. At that time my heart bloomed. I smiled brightly throughout the whole day. My mother was very happy for me that I have a friend in my school.

Everyday, me and Sakura would wait for each other to go recess together and walked home together. We become best friends. One day, on our back home.

“Actually, today I want to say something to you,” Sakura said to me. As she about to talked.

“Hey kid!” I turned my back and a punched hit my face really hard. I fell to the ground.

“What’s wrong with you Sean?!” Sakura shouted. “Sean? Why is he here? And how did Sakura know him?” I was confused.

“Shut up Sakura! This time this kid is done for,” Sean said. While I was still blurred for what had happened, Sean kicked me in the stomach. He hit me non-stop until Sakura stopped him.

“That’s enough Sean. I don’t love you  and I don’t love him. We’re just friends. So please go home and leave us alone,” Sakura said to Sean. “Love?” I whispered in my heart. Sean took his bag and left.

“Are you okay? Let me take you to the hospital,” she said to me. I stood up and picked my bag.

“I’m fine, don’t worry,” I said to her and left her. At home my mother was worried and she took out the first aid and healed me. I never talked to Sakura since that day

On the school holidays, I was in my room studying for the final exam. My mother came into my room and gave me a letter. She said she don’t know who the sender was. I opened the letter and read it. I was shocked . It was from Sakura! She said she was moving to Sabah. I quickly get up from the seat and ran towards the door. When I opened the door.

“Hi,” it was Sakura. She came to my house to meet me for the last time. She was trying to tell me about her move about every time she tried to reach me, I ran away. She told me everything about her relationship with Sean and everything. We exchanged stories till dawn. The it was time for her to go. Her father came to picked her up.

“ I guess this is it then. It was fun knowing you. I learned a lot from you, so thank you” she said with the beautiful smile of hers. She looked very beautiful in the shine of the dawn. By the time she walked towards the car, she said “ I love you,” with a very slow voice. My heart bloomed. I waved and watched as the car moved further and further away from me.

“Actually it is me who earned a lot from you,” I said to myself. I walked home slowly.

At school, I tried to be friendly with everyone. As time pass by everyone became my friends.As for Sean, he was expelled because he bullied a junior until the student reported to the police. My grades were also becoming much better and without noticing it I passed SPM with flying colours. My teachers, my friends and more importantly my mother were very proud of me.

“I’m sure your late father will be very proud of you,” my mother said to me. I can’t really expressed the feelings that I felt at that time.

I was offered to continue my studies at Sabah. I felt very happy that after three years I can finally meet Sakura again. But I felt a bit sad because I have to leave my mother alone.

“Don’t worry about me, just continue your studies and become a better person,” my mother said to me before I took the flight. After two hours of flight, the first thing do after my registration was visiting to Sakura’s house.

I rang the doorbell and her mother came.

“Is Sakura home?” I asked her. Instead of answering she invited me inside. She offered me some tea.

“Actually Sakura died of cancer last year.” I was shocked. Her family moved to Sabah was actually to get her a treatment but she died during the surgery. It was very heartbreaking for me to heard the news. Her mother gave me Sakura’s diary.

I can’t stop crying when I read it. Now I know that she loved me very much and I know that she wanted me to fight for my dreams. “Why do she have to die in such a very young age” I want to shout it but it was not me to decide her fate.

As I put her diary on the table a piece of paper dropped. Something was written on it. It said

“DO YOUR BEST AND MAY YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO WOULD LOVE YOU MORE THAT I DO,”

STORY OF MY LIFE

                   I was born on 23 December 1996 at Hospital Kajang Selangor, I am the eldest sons of 3 siblings in my family. My father name is Nordin and he was 42 now and my mum name is Kamariah and she’s turning 40 this October. I have 3 sibling. By the way, My name is Aliff Ashraf and people call me Aliff.

    I still remember those glory days when I was a little happy boy with a big dream to be a guitarist of a rock band. My first guitar is when I was 9 years old. My father taught me how to play guitar till I was 13. My first songs on guitar plucking is “Happy Birthday song”. I love music because when it hit you , you’ll feel no pain but it soothes the listener. However, I make a band with 5 person that I closed to be in my high school. We used to practice the band at the studio and shared our opinion to balance the melody in certain songs.

    I got a lot more to learn in music, my father always said “Passion is the reason” if you want to do something,you do it with passion. I got full support from my parents,especially my dad. My dad gave me lot of gadget to practice my guitar skills. Every night I used to practice my guitar skills with my dad but sometimes with friends too.

     Sadly,right after I  finished my school everything went wrong. I rarely practice my guitar skills. Maybe , in 2 or 3 times a weeks. Suddenly , I got a letter from college that offer me to further my study at Ipoh, Perak and that’s was my sadness news where I can’t go out with my friend as usual. Far from my loved one especially , my beloved parents because  have to live with my new family which is my dorm’s mate. Eventhough, I bring my guitar  with me until here, Ipoh but I hardly ever play my guitar. Finally, I feel very shame of myself because even in a weeks I didn’t play my guitar and I didn’t feel guilty at all. I hope one day after I graduate I will practice my guitar skill more often than before. Because since I was young I really want to be a professional guitarist and I hope to catch all my dream someday.      

Never the same

forgive and forgiving

Aidilfitri is a day where every Muslims celebrate their success against their lust after thirty days of fasting. It is a day where everyone forgive and apologising for the mistakes that they’ve done to others either it is big or small mistakes. One of the traditions nowadays is many Muslims will visit their cousins, friends and neighbours house to strengthen their ukhuwah.

But everything change as the time flows by.

Nowadays the world is getting more and more advance in moving towards modernisation. But none realizes that some people are too obsess with their gadget that they forgot about the bonds that should they create doing Aidilfitri. Although some people might against this thought but they can’t see it clearly. Aidilfitri is a day where everyone shares the joy and happiness of their success besides strengthening their ukhuwah but people nowadays are too busy with their gadget. Even when visiting other people’s house, some people more enjoy surfing the internet, play video game or listen to music. Smartphones, Tablets, Laptops and other gadgets, some people just can’t get their hands of them.

Some people might say that it’s normal but it is something that we should be wise and think about it. The bond between all of us is very important not only for the Muslims but also for all the other races in the world. Let us all just put our gadgets away and talk, laugh and have fun with all the people around us. No matter who the person is, maybe someday that person will be the one that would help us in our time of need. Maybe not in person but in other kind of ways. My friend once told me “Be friendly to the world, and the whole universe will be your friend,” And those words are still kept safe in my mind.

Visiting neighbours and friends

               Aidilfitri is a day where we make more friends and tighten our ukhuwah, not the day where we keep on living in solidarity. Let’s make the world a more friendly place rather than a world that advance in technology but very poor in friendship.



This is a video made by RTM as a lesson for us all. Enjoy.

My Raya Experience

Hari Raya Puasa will be celebrated every year by a Muslim after a month of fasting in ramadhan. Hari Raya Aidilfitri falls in the month of Shawal in Muslim calendar. The word 'Hari Raya' mean day of celebration. Whatever it is every people have their own way to celebrate with their loved one. Everyone have their own experience right? So I want to shared about my Hari Raya aidilfitri experience.

Hari Raya Puasa is around the corner as everyone know. We can see the Muslim early prepared before celebrate. They decorate their house,buying new clothes and making many types of food and cookies for the special day. We can see that groceries, shopping mall or other shop will be crowded by the muslim. Hari Raya is a common things now because enjoyment of this raya only feel when I was a little boy. I used to back to hometown every year to celebrate our Raya Puasa with my big family. I can see the happiness between all the family member because there is so many story to tell after long time not seeing each other. My grandma have more than 20 grandchild and there so many antics especially kids when they enjoying themselves playing fire crackers. Every year , My grandparent will decorated their house with ‘ pelita ‘ and colourful lamp. For me its been found that such activities is a legacy for The house which is located far from the town like village.

First day of Raya, My mother and aunty wake up early in the morning to prepared various breakfast for all family members while other get ready with their new ‘baju melayu’ and go to the mosque for Hari Raya aidilfitri prayer. Then, all the family member gather in grandma house and ask for forgiveness and forget all the mistakes to each other. After that, we go visit all the relative house and they had give me ‘Duit Raya’ although I am no longer a child. Second day of raya morning we going to visit the grave and recite ‘Yassin’ for ‘atuk’ who have gone left us and the saddest part is I never met him. God love him more. Hari Raya is a a joyous occasion though it is celebrated by all Muslim in the world, each family have the their own way to celebrate Hari Raya.

Lastly, Hari Raya Aidilfitri is not just a celebration. It is a wake up to all Muslim to fill the day with forgiveness, forget all the mistakes, a caring spirit and colour. Furthermore, even we are in a modern generation I hope we can keep our culture of hari raya for the next generation.

THE GENERATIONS

When we talk about thinking, then in today’s fast changing scenario, the younger generation become more practical, more wild, more assertive and ambitious then the older generation. Now days, “Success” become a buzz word in between the younger generation and younger generation is trying to achieve this word at any cost. Now, the question is arises that “What is the major reason behind this deep difference?” Lots of conclusions are also there but I think over ambition, greed of money, glamour world attraction is the major reasons behind this difference.


Due to these reasons, we have to face lots of problems like suicide rates have gone up, which is a matter of concern. The crime rate is also going on and it is done by between 16 to 22 years old younger children’s, which is not good at all. In most of the crimes we found that most of the students or children have done crime in the first time of their life. This is not good news at all. The cut throat competition encourages our younger peoples to develop the new strategies to take instant decisions, and decide their own future direction as they want. There is no sense of satisfaction and contentment in young generation. Now, if we are talking about older generation then in earlier, the fame, money and satisfaction was come with their maturity level and with their age also. Older generation have more practical experience. “Famous Today, Forgotten Tomorrow” is the main aim of today’s generation.


Our parent’s generations were not thinking about world. They were just thinking that how we can earn enough money for fulfilling a basic need of family. This generation’s people are thinking that we have to earn lots of money for giving luxurious life to our family. Olden people were thinking that women had to just handle the family and her child. But in the new era women have to handle the family as well as the women have to become educated and do the job. Olden generation people were thinking that if you want to earn more money then we have to leave our country and settled in abroad country. By going abroad we have got a name and fame both. Olden generation people were thinking that children have to handle the business of our parents. They have no need to do the job. While today’s generations are thinking that children have to do the in the company

Olden generation’s people were thinking that, farming is best business is good and job is worst. New generation people are thinking that, job is best business is good and farming is worst. Olden generation people mostly preferred farming but this generation prefers job.

As per above discussed points I personally believe that their are big generation gap between parents generation and our generation. Parents generations thinking were limited to family, while our generation thinthink, this topic is an everlasting topic and a very long topic which give a lot of conclusion. We can’t deny the age factor and the age difference also but there are some factors that are responsible like today’s easy made life make younger generation life so easy. They (young people) can easily know what is the current affair, who is online, what are new invention and many more. I admit that sometime the younger generation becomes more over board but it is also important for them to think, this topic is an everlasting topic and a very long topic which give a lot of conclusion. We can’t deny the age factor and the age difference also but there are some factors that are responsible like today’s easy made life make younger generation life so easy. They (young people) can easily know what is the current affair, who is online, what are new invention and many more. I admit that sometime the younger generation becomes more over board but it is also important for them to respect their older generation thoughts.